My grandmother lived with Alzheimer’s for more than 15 years, and for nine and a half of them she was in a nursing home. Her body was healthy, but she no longer knew where she was or who was in the room. My grandfather grew up with almost nothing and built a comfortable retirement from a couple of gas stations he owned. I watched him spend nearly all of it on her care.
I saw what it does to a person, and what it does to a family.
I also watched my father work through the hard parts of caring for aging parents, including whether they were ready to give up control and let someone else help make decisions. Years later, when my father developed a brain tumor and was left largely paralyzed at age 69, we went through it all again. That time we were prepared, and we were grateful for it.
Rosalind has her own version of this story. Both of her grandmothers spent time in nursing homes, one with Alzheimer’s and the other after a fall. As a young adult she spent many Fridays visiting her grandmother, alongside her mother, who was there so often that she ended up helping in the activities department.
Because of this, we understand how a long-term care crisis can go wrong, and we understand how it can go right. We treat every family the way we would want ours to be treated.
Stephen C. Jones and Rosalind M. Robertson